Here in the south, and especially here in Texas, we are known for being friendly, “neighborly” many call it. We wave while rolling down the road; we help our neighbor when he needs us; we take care of each other’s children, and we’re quick to show up with a cake or a casserole when someone is sick or has lost a loved one.
However….when it comes to having the good manners to let someone know whether we will be attending their party…well, we are rude, ill-mannered, and boorish to be totally honest. We also do not seem to care that we cause the hosts major anxiety and major bucks by our rudeness. If you haven’t a clue what I’m talking about, then you haven’t hosted a major party. Here are a couple of examples.
For years, I hosted an Easter party for children. I spent major bucks so that the kiddos were not just hunting eggs but also stuffed animals, books, jewelry, and other small prizes. Of course, we also played games and had refreshments.
Obviously, I desperately needed to know how many were coming so that I knew how much to buy as well as how much to cook so I sent out my invitations with an RSVP attached.
One year I received three responses so I guessed and prepared for twenty…fifty-four attended. It would have been a total disaster had I not been hosting another party for which I had actually already bought the ingredients for refreshments. I was able to make a dash for the kitchen and throw some things together. However, I came very close to disaster…purely because of rudeness.
Much, much worse than this was one of my friends who was trying to pull off the Texas wedding of the year. She did it all correctly and on the wedding day she had…149…count them…149 no responses! And that was after providing the self-addressed cards and postage to every single person.
She had absolutely no idea how many seats to provide and worse than that, she was providing a full meal for the reception. A full meal with 149 no responses! So what did she do? She paid the caterer for food for people that she had no idea were coming…but, what if they did?
She also paid for place settings and the work that went into setting them up because she did not want to be embarrassed by not having enough places ready for her guests…guests that I have to assume have no idea how rude they are.
So, come on, ya’ll! Texans care about each other, and there is just no reason to cause our hosts this type of stress and money. RSVP means that someone REALLY needs to know if you wanna come to their party and if you do, they want to spend the money to cook, etc. for you. BUT, if you aren’t coming, they will just keep their money in their pocket so let ‘em know!